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What
Lessons Do Children Learn When They Grow Up in Abusive
Families
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1.
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Volence
works -- solution to problems, not a problem in and of
itself. |
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2.
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The
safest place for me (the child) is in the arms of the
abusive parent. |
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3.
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Power
is hierarchical and coercive. |
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4.
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Abuse
and violence reinforce power. |
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5.
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Fear
is the emotion that permeates a relationship and governs
the interactions. |
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6.
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Learn
to react, not initiate.
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7.
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Intensity
determines recognition - difficulty recognizing low-level
emotions. |
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8.
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Learn
to focus on the weaknesses of others - cues to survival
in their own families of origin often lay in personal
weaknesses, not strengths. |
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9.
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Learn
negative and rigid gender roles and identification.
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10.
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Gentleness,
compassion, empathy are signs of weakness. |
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