Cycle of Violence



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Cycle of Violence

	Incident
		Any type of abuse occurs (physical/sexual/emotional)

	Tension Building

		Abuser starts to get angry
		Abuse may begin
		There is a breakdown of communication
		Victim feels the need to keep the abuser calm
		Tension becomes too much

		Victim feels like they are 'walking on egg shells'

	Making-Up
		Abuser may apologize for abuse
		Abuser may promise it will never happen again
		Abuser may blame the victim for causing the abuse
		Abuser may deny abuse took place or say it was not as bad as the victim claims

	Calm
		Abuser acts like the abuse never happened
		Physical abuse may not be taking place
		Promises made during 'making-up' may be met
		Victim may hope that the abuse is over
		Abuser may give gifts to victim

	The cycle can happen hundreds of times in an abusive relationship. Each stage lasts a different amount of time in a relationship. The total cycle can take anywhere from a few hours to a year or more to complete. It is important to remember that not all domestic violence relationships fit the cycle. Often, as time goes on, the 'making-up' and 'calm' stages disappear.

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